A critical element of effective therapy is that it occur as a process. Meaning that there is time for insight to saturate your life and produce insight on your own within your life context. As it is and for you. This requires time for you to interact with a novel idea , to digest and for it to move your experience in action in another way. We are generally engaged in the process of building confidence and improving social skills and overcoming the fear of failure (if such a thing is what to do with it). My response for the moment must be “I don’t know, let us see”
What we are about doing here is more than just addressing health and wellness. We are attempting to grapple with making a shift in your being. I can’t reduce your experience down to three or four steps and I am hesitant to endorse the trend in mental health to do so. As if it were a prescription of what to do in order to always produce a desired result. Perhaps our understanding of ourselves will evolve to be able to accomplish that some point in the future. We certainly don’t have a working formula for that now, much less do I possess it to give you.
We do reduce physical health down to hygiene and exercise. There is a great deal of illness and impairment that is prevented and avoided by having good mental health hygiene. However, no matter how pristine the care or no matter how rigorous the effort neither do we stand a chance at overcoming the inevitable progression or state of our being. We still have pain, we still are discomforted, we still__________ (fill in the blank with any number of the conditions of human existence). If we are to address our being and improve our state of being then we will have to approach more fundamental and complex issues that span our development of personality, formation of habit, patterns of interaction with people, our own allocation of our dynamo, and rewiring of our thinking. All of which benefit from processes occurring between our insight and our actions which are measured across time (a very wordy way of saying – it takes time). Be patient, but active.
