Could vs. Will: A Worry Exercise

Nov 13, 2021

When we get worried about something it is easy for us to imagine the worst thing that could happen. Possibly a product of our negatively wired and vigilant mind’s wiring. The truth is, the reality is that most of what we worry never comes true, never becomes reality. What could happen isn’t the same as what will happen. Thinking about what will happen, instead of what could happen, not only helps you to worry less – it honors the anxiety by looking at what will be done in the situation. IT orientates us towards a path of action and not paralysis.

Articulate the worry.

What could happen?

What are some clues that it will NOT come true?

What if it does NOT come true, what will probably happen instead?

IF it DOES come true, how ill you handle it?

Will you eventually be okay?

How has worry about it changed while reflecting through these questions?

What will happen?

The energy and attention that you put into reflecting and answering these questions, determines what you will get back from them.  If you provide a quick cursory answers, expect to have little impactful insight and guidance reflected back.  If you dedicate depth and honesty you will get mirrored back relevance and assurances which hopefully will quiet your worry and possibly catalyze action.  There is a difference.  Set your mind upon what will happen and welcome risk. Resolve to not paralyze yourself by remaining fearful of risk.  Your worry matters, it is valid.  Treat it as such. You and your worries are not dismissible. Honor them and yourself by processing them. 

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